How to get out of the comparison trap & get the career you want

You might not be where you want to be. You might not be working to where you want to be.

Maybe you are like a lot of people I’ve spoken to recently, just counting down the days until the weekend. Buttttttt the weekend just keeps feeling a little further away.

 

How to stop comparing yourself & get the career you want

If you took a minute to think about this question, (I know, big breath) would your answer be that your satisfied with your job/career/lifestyle?

This question has made me a little more nervous than I’d like to admit at times.

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3 powerful mindsets you need to get the job

I’ve been working with a number of people trying to get a better job, start their career or make a change.

And the biggest challenge we’ve faced is overcoming the: “I’m not enough” mindset.

3 powerful mindsets you need to get the job

 

I honestly can’t believe how much it has cropped up, and this destructive narrative shows up in a myriad of ways, it’s sneaky. (Just like this cat, but definitely not as cute).

Sneaky cat

I’ve collected the most common three shapes I’ve seen the: “I’m not enough” trap take so far, so you can recognize it earlier, throw it out and not be hindered by this lie anymore.

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Dealing With Body-Shaming

Last week I felt like a beached whale. It started when out of curiosity I wanted to weigh myself.

I know … my first mistake.

It was Wednesday and when I got to the gym I noticed they had a scale. So I asked if I could use it. They obliged of course. Just as I was about to step on they frantically pointed to my feet to tell me I needed to remove my shoes and socks.

I thought it was weird, but then I thought welllllll … I guess I could do without the extra weight. 😉

But it turned out this contraption wasn’t just a scale. It was some crazy machine which apparently could measure body fat, determine the age of your body, and know what you ate for dinner last Tuesday, all through electrical impulses … or something (shrug).

It printed out this chart full of figures and statistics. Even if it was in English I’d still have been overwhelmed.

There was one table though I could understand. It had pictures of body sizes and underneath each thumbnail was a space where the machine could tick to say which category you fell into.

I quickly scanned the chart, left to right. I couldn’t see a tick. It was blank underneath the “average” boxes i.e. where I assumed I’d be. I was confused.

Then I saw it. The machine had ticked a box further right than I had anticipated.

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Big decisions & Self-doubt: What I’ve been up to the last 2 years

For the past year I’ve been in limbo. Limbo between jobs, between countries, between pay cheques and houses. In every way possible way, things have been uncertain.

I haven’t really felt in control of much/anything, not even of what I eat or when I sleep.

To you at home it might look like my life is crazy — a complete and utter mess. A “stay clear of her”, kind of thing.

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Or it might look like an epic adventure, void of responsibilities and the humdrum of the day-to-day.

I think it’s been a mixture of both.

I’ve been incredibly fortunate to have stayed with extraordinarily kind and generous people, literally across the world. I met my husband (say whatttttttt!) in what seems like a scene from a Rom-Com.

It really has been a year full of surprises. But, it has also been filled with considerable stress and anxiety.

I’ve been constantly questioning if I’m making good decisions or even the right decisions. (Because good decisions exist, right?)

And I’ve been worrying if I am going to regret my spontaneous choices.

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