Hi, I’m Cheryl.
Welcome! Launched in 2017 as a community for creative women who struggle with people-pleasing and perfectionism. Women who want to stop letting thoughts like: “I’m not good enough/smart enough/qualified enough/pretty enough”, hold them back.
This site is all about how to gain perspective in our everyday lives and learn to beat perfectionism back into submission.
And now we’re upping our game and focusing in on how perfectionism damages us when we try to develop ourselves professionally.
Do you want to feel more confident and powerful, specifically in the workplace? Yeah? Congrats because you’ve now found your virtual home. (Mini-wave in celebration!)
But maybe right now you don’t know how to become a more confident you.
Maybe you …
Can’t stop beating yourself up because you constantly think you’re not good enough to apply to specific jobs.
Feel anxious about yourself and your abilities. “Laura from 3rd is way better than me at Excel, she’ll probably get the new marketing role anyway …”.
Want to try a new career, but just don’t know where to begin. Resumes need to be freaking works of art these days and who has the time?
But despite all the if’s and but’s which buzz around your head, you know you want to push yourself, grow and try new things — including that new job or role.
You want to stop selling yourself short. You want to actually give yourself a chance to try new things and succeed.
And ladies, we’re pretty darn good at that aren’t we? Selling ourselves short. Too many of us are quick to reject compliments on our accomplishments and think that so-and-so could have done it better.
It’s this specific thought that holds us back so much. This bud of perfectionism. If we don’t meet every listed expectation in the job description, well there’s just no point in trying.
But I don’t believe that’s true. Unless, you know, a hospital needs a certified doctor and you’ve never had a medical education, then I think we can both agree the chances are realistically very slim.
I do believe though if you actually took some solid time out to craft an epic resume and cover letter to sell yourself well, you definitely stand a great chance at getting that dream job.
And that’s exactly what you’ll find here.
Oodles of advice in blog posts told through real stories, and focused on how to create boundaries and set yourself up for success.
You’ll also find some beautiful freebies sprinkled throughout posts on how to write resumes that actually get read, and craft cover letters that will get you in the door to interview.
Oh hey, by the way, do you want a free worksheet that will help you craft your powerful resume? Great! Because I’ve made just that to help you get started in your dream job. Click here to download it instantly.
We talk about everything, from helping you build productive mindsets and habits, to the nitty-gritty cover letter must-do’s-and-don’ts.
So why did I decide to focus on perfectionism in the workplace?
Well, by definition, perfectionists are known to be kind of all or nothing people. I definitely am.
If I don’t think I can do it 100% well, thennnnn I’ll probably give a mediocre start and let it drop by the wayside or, I simply won’t even try at all.
What’s the point if it’s not going to be perfect, right?
It’s exactly this mindset which made me realise how much us perfectionists hold ourselves back in lots of different ways, but specifically within the workplace.
You know when you get a whopping good idea, think about it for a day or two and realise, “I don’t know how to do this part of the task or so-and-so would be better at this”?
So you stop yourself from pursuing that idea any further or pitching it to your boss?
Or perhaps you see this job ad and it sounds like whoever wrote it was solely thinking of you as they hammered at their keyboard.
You think you’d be pretty darn good at it (ahem, amazing rather), but because it asks for one credential or skill you haven’t nailed down you think: “well, that means I can’t apply then.” You close the window and go back to trailing through the endless job pages.
We both know if you’d applied with a carefully crafted resume and cover letter you’d definitely have a shot at getting the job.
We both know if you just got to the interview stage you’d wow them so much they wouldn’t care about that random bullet point they just added to make the ad complete.
They’d see you were willing and capable and would hire you regardless of you not knowing how to photoshop Nicholas Cage’s head onto a teacher’s briefcase. (Probably an ad somewhere …).
This is a space where it is more than okay to not have your whole life together. But one where we talk about how to not let perfectionism stop you from applying yourself to new adventures, including your dream job.
So, why did I decide to start this site?
Shortly after arriving in China for the second time around, I noticed how I kept getting this kind of disappointed feeling.
You know the one, where your chest feels like it has a concrete slab on it, your brain is whirring like an approaching storm and all you want to do is hide away?
At first I couldn’t figure out what was making me so unhappy.
I was back in an exciting foreign country, I’d just got married to my best friend and I’d been traveling for over a year.
What could I possibly be sad about?
I started to take note of when this feeling would visit me. And I realized it was nearly always when I felt I failed in something, or when things I had thought should pan out one (perfect) way, didn’t.
It was then it hit me. My perfectionist mindset was in control.
I always knew I was a perfectionist. I would frantically clean the edges of the plates as I was serving dinner (heaven forbid there be a gravy drip), and I’d never feel satisfied with a painting, there was always something that it still needed.
But what I didn’t realize was how much it was affecting my everyday life. I didn’t realize how much stress I was causing myself.
The day I had a meltdown over apartments was when I decided, enough was enough. I couldn’t live my life this stressed out.
I needed to change. I was sick of pretending that everything was always hunky dory. And I was tired of the “it must just me, no one else feels like this” lie.
You know the warm feeling you get when you’re having a deep magical conversations with your friend?
Well, it was my love for these deep chats (usually late night talks) which encouraged me to start finding solutions to this perfectionism problem.
And … to actually share what I found. This one was a biggie.
Doing this meant admitting to my friends, family, and the random-person-I-met-once-and-now-we’re-FB-friends, that I didn’t have it altogether.
But despite what social media has us thinking sometimes, I couldn’t be the only one struggling with perfectionism, right?
I decided to bite the bullet. And that’s how it all began.
As well as writing here, I’m teaching English in Guiyang, China (and beginning a small forest sized collection of plants) and I’ve recently realized I buy far too many candles.
I’m compelled to write open and honestly, about how we can handle things less stressfully and live out the adventurous lives we want.
Because being in our heads too much, being our own worst critic and never stepping out to try something new is no fun.
So don’t forget to grab your free worksheet below to help you write an epic resume and get you that interview. And if you have any questions, of course, get in touch.
And hey, thanks for checking in. I really appreciate it 🙂